Happy New Years. Welcome to 2019 and the new you. Often you hear the phrase "New Year, New You." This notion is meant to inspire change and improvement in the new year, to start fresh. The new year can be just that for unwed fathers. Make 2019 the year you change and improve yourself and your family.
There is a common misconception that Court is a strict, no-nonsense process that is etched in stone. It might shock you to find out that Court is really an unpredictable environment that requires quick-on-your-feet thinking and flexibility.
Your case begins before the filing, before a consult, before you even contemplate filing for divorce. A case begins when a relationship starts, when a child is born, when you take a job, or buy a house. A case is born in the actions you take (what we call the facts of the case). We, as your family law advocate, rely on those facts, and those facts come from you. We rely on the truth, or what you tell us is the truth. We rely on you.
Words are tricky. They can get you in trouble or out of trouble. They can save your life or get you killed. They can save your relationship or end it. They can win your case or lose it. I think you get the idea. Words are everything in our profession. Words are the art of trial practice. If you asked ten attorneys what one word within a Judge's Order or Opinion meant, you might get ten different opinions, depending on their frame of reference.
On Tuesday, November 8, 2016 I was officially sworn in as an attorney in the State of Georgia. One week later I had the privilege of handling my first consultation. To be candid, I was nervous. Family law is a delicate area of the law. Mothers and fathers, wives and husbands, children, all seeking help at a desperate time. In preparation, I thought through the process and strategy of how to handle the consultation. Should I use technical jargon? Should I use legalese to impress the potential client? Should I try and connect and make jokes to ease the tension and the pain the potential client was dealing with? Should I be frank and to the point?