My grandfather used to say "Clarity comes from remembering where you came from; understanding where you want to go; and discovering how you will get there."
"Nothing we do can change the past, but everything we do changes the future." __ Ashleigh Brilliant
A child lays in bed thinking what caused the demise of their parents' marriage. They think about the times where things felt normal. As they grow older, many things trigger their memories of the past. Instead of having soothing reflections of childhood memories the truth becomes unraveled and lies and deceit flood their mind. Their mother and father made promises of things that were uncertain: "things will not change much for you" or "things will become better than they were before." That child, now maturing into a young adolescent, begins to resent their parents, who could not hold their promises.
Gaslighting is a term used to describe a particular type of psychological manipulation in which an abuser manipulates a victim into thinking they are losing their sanity. This term originated from the 1938 play, "Gas Light", which is about a woman who is gaslighted by her husband.
When we reflect on the Roaring Twenties we usually think of speakeasies, the Ford Model-T, and pomp and flair as illustrated in The Great Gatsby. The 1920's was a century ago and we may not see our connection to their definition of family, and marriage. However, the 2020's is still connected to the past. A tree branch cannot exist without its roots, no matter their differences. The overall perspective of marriage was, and still is, shaped by the economy and gender roles 100 years later.