When it comes to communicating, perception is often reality. How one side views the other often shapes how they perceive the communications (verbal and non-verbal) that they have with that person. Let's take John and Jane Doe for example:
For the past several years, Tybee Island, just down the road from our Savannah office, has been the site of what's called "Orange Crush." "Orange Crush" is a word-of-mouth event with no official promoters that is predominantly attended mostly by African-American college students on spring break. As an unofficial event, there are no permits issued by the City of Tybee (so no revenue created there) and much to the City's dismay, there exists no real way of preventing it from happening.
Macon Bolling Allen
I will never forget that day. It was cold, wet, gray, even dreary and just a few days before Christmas.
It's easy to lose sight of the important things in life throughout the year, but particularly during the holiday season. A time of year that was once nothing but fun as a child can very easily become the most stressful months of the year for adults. End-of-the calendar work obligations, an increased presence of family and in-laws, gifts to purchase, bills to pay, each day is shorter in daylight than the last, oh, you failed miserably at that resolution you made 11 ½ months ago, and....AAAARRGGGHH! Add in an open family law case or a spiteful ex who picked now of all times to start a fight over visitation and your blood pressure can quickly rise to a boil.
Twenty year marriage. Two children, both still under the age of eighteen. Husband has worked throughout the marriage. Wife has been a stay-at-home mother, raising the children and maintaining the house. That was the agreement, way back when the couple had their first child.
Often in post divorce, children travel extensively through the holidays. If Mom lives in Marietta and Dad lives in Lawrenceville, the travel may be just a few hours as they traverse around I-285. If Mom lives in Savannah and Dad lives in Los Angeles, travel will probably take several hours as the children travel through Hartsfield International. If Mom lives in Atlanta and Dad lives in Berlin, travel will probably take the better part of a day or night as the children fly across the Atlantic Ocean.
On Tuesday, November 8, 2016 I was officially sworn in as an attorney in the State of Georgia. One week later I had the privilege of handling my first consultation. To be candid, I was nervous. Family law is a delicate area of the law. Mothers and fathers, wives and husbands, children, all seeking help at a desperate time. In preparation, I thought through the process and strategy of how to handle the consultation. Should I use technical jargon? Should I use legalese to impress the potential client? Should I try and connect and make jokes to ease the tension and the pain the potential client was dealing with? Should I be frank and to the point?
Jack rested back into his chair and took in the scene.
So, I am one of those lucky ducks that has an amazing family to visit with on Thanksgiving. We're all fairly like-minded regarding the usual holiday table fodder, such as politics and social issues and economics. We play the song Alice's Restaurant by Arlo Guthrie and wear our PJ's to eat and then usually binge on fun movies or Mystery Science Theater. All that aside, I do know that nobody wants to spend those precious few days off work in a battle royal with their family.